Tuesday 18 January 2011
The ICF recently started a global campaign called "I Care For..." where Coaches from around the world can speak briefly about what they care for. It's very powerful and moving. In fact it could become a movement in it's own right. The relevance for us here is despite what's going on recently cannot be ignored. We too need to reclaim our own identity and reconnect with our value system and the beauty of our own "Irishnessness"
Here's a link to a site where you can share the view of respected senior Coaches and what they care for; http://www.coachfederation.org/care/index.cfm/icfcare/memberscare
They say the question is the answer, so in attempt to answer one's own question what do I care for...? In a nutshell "I care for people to step into their own space by engaging with their own story to allow them tell that story to the world". It's been said that the world is full of stories yet the stories are all one. I agree with that, because it means that my story is at one with the Universe and I am an essential part of that 2 way connection. The fact I have my own story makes me unique the fact I have a story make me the same as everyone else. What I feel many people don't get is down to two fundamental questions that are difficult yet essential to answer; 1) What's the meaning of life and 2) what's the purpose of life..?
My answer to these questions is: 1) The meaning of life is to discover your own unique gifts and 2) the purpose of life is simply to use these gifts. The extent to which we engage with our own story fashions the richness of our lives and shapes the nature of our legacy. Legacy is in essence no more than contribution. That invariably means doing things for others (often on a pro-bono basis) which I believe is when we're at our best. That's when we tap into our own uniqueness, when we do this we don't collide with others in the world or the Marketplace because we are "us" and no-one else can do what we do, yet so many of us are afraid or unable to step out of our own shadow.
That's also why so many of us can't answer that question. We have no frame of reference and no sense of who they are so how could we speak with conviction on what we care for. So in these still slightly longer if dank and changeable days we find some time to answer our own unique questions we can add them to the list already existing. If nothing else it's a free exercise in clarity and only good can come from that! There may be 6.8Bn of us in the world but no-one will or ever has had my story so, why would I ever want to die with "my music still inside of me" as Wayne Dyer once famously said? No more than you I wouldn't but why do we wait when we don't know when the clock may stop ticking? So as our American brethren say "go figure..."
Monday 3 January 2011
I've just started reading this and have to say I purchased it with some reservation. If you're not aware, this is a famous book by Anthony Robbins. I reserve judgement on people whom I perceive to be bigger than their work or the messages contained within. I prefer Stephen Covey for that reason as he walks his talk more and his work is less about him and more about the messages. Tony is a huge personality and a celebrity. I don't have an issue with that per se. He does attract more detractors who are not convinced of how genuine he may actually be....Me...? Right now it makes sense for me to "err on the side of generosity".
As it's New Year instead of droning on about Goals and Plans I thought I'd pass on something significant I learned in the first 50 pages of this book. I liked this and decided to do a blog post about it. His point is simple: To create sustainable Change in your life you need to make 3 fundamental shiftss. Here they are:
1. Raise your standards; By doing this, you make a statement about what you don't want (You tell your brain you're upping your game) This means you take a position on what you want and decide what you're not going to settle for. "In 2011 I will only work with clients who really want to do the work as opposed to people who are willing to pay..." Would be an example of raising your standards.
2. Change Your Limiting Beliefs; If you take a new stance on things, you need to rid your system of the old way of doing things (you need a new mindset and to rid yourself of the fears you had in the past which kept such clients or opportunities from you) You need to work on these beliefs to ensure you don't lose belief in yourself in support of your new standard.
3. Change your strategy; Whatever action you were or were not taking in the past was not allowing you to access this opportunity (perhaps you were unaware of this)You need to devise a new set of actions to support the new beliefs in service of the new standard.
The rest is learning and part of this exercise in to lose the fear of making mistakes. Robbins invokes something Nietzsche once famously said-paraphrase; "when we make a firm decision, providence moves also" I actually believe this has a lot of truth in it. We need a complete system to line us up for success. I will no doubt do more posts about this work or the author! I'm off to put that sound advice into ACTION...What are you waiting for...??!