Our daughter, uses the teen expression 'CLILLAX' to get us parents to calm down and get a grip. It seemed in perfect union with the season and (this week's weather!).
This is an article that might strike a note............Enjoy!!
IT'S SLOW TIME; Decelerate Your Life If You Want to Achieve More, Says OCTAVIUS BLACK of the 'Mind Gym'.
A QUIET revolution has been occurring in some circles. While we rush around feeling that if we are not frazzled we are being lazy or falling behind, some chic, achieving urbanites are taking life at a distinctly slower pace.
But far from dropping out, or downshifting - the term used to describe people who give up a demanding profession to start an organic vegetable patch in Shropshire - they are still working, and becoming more successful than ever.
Strange as it may seem, the psychological research shows that we're more likely to enjoy our lives and achieve our goals when we rush less and consider more. There's evidence, too, that slowing down our approach to life can make us more creative and efficient.
Research suggests the brain has two modes of thought.
In his book, Hare Brain, Tortoise Mind - Why Intelligence Increases When You Think Less, British psychologist and Chairman of The Mind Gym's academic board, Guy Claxton, calls them Fast Thinking and Slow Thinking.
Fast Thinking is rational, analytical, linear, and logical. It is what we do under pressure, when the clock’s ticking and delivers clear solutions to well defined problems.
Slow Thinking is intuitive, woolly and creative. It's what we do when the pressure is off.
Carl Honore, author of the book ‘In Praise Of Slow’, says 'Getting stuck in fast-forward takes the pleasure out of life.
Eureka moments seldom come in a fast-paced office or a high stress moment.'
However, 60 per cent of women report feeling continually short of time; the average couple manages to spend only two hours a day together; and 'more time' is one of the most popular items on our New Year wish lists. Slowing down seems almost impossible.
However, it is possible to take back control. Here are five practical ways to achieve more by slowing down.
CARL HONOR... started the Slow Movement when he caught himself speed-reading his daughter's bedtime story. In his desperation to pack more and more in, he realised that he'd forgotten the reason why he was doing things. Whether it's a delicious dinner, a country walk, don't just go through the motions of completing the task - enjoy it.
LET OTHERS RUSH IN
The passionate risk-taker may succeed in films, but it's those with stamina and staying power who come out on top in the real world. The wise person lets others rush in, and then learns from their expensive mistakes.
In economic history, the only major example of a successful business that was first to market is Xerox, with the photocopier. They were also first with mobiles and PCs. Not that it bothered Nokia or Dell.
THE major difference between doctors who get sued by their patients and those who don't is how much time they spend listening - even when there's no difference in the treatments.
The time and pleasure dividend you will get later, will more than make up for a few extra minutes listening to your lover's woes or your colleague's extravagant tales. You might even learn something useful.
SET AN ALARM
SPOT where rushing often means you make mistakes: leaving your keys at home, your mobile on the bus or your shopping list in the car.
Pick a physical object that you are likely to see on these occasions and use it as an alarm call to prompt you to slow down. Your toothbrush could be the trigger that reminds you to ease your early morning dash.
BE A TIME DOVE
NO ONE has enough time to do everything.
Some people are content with this. They recognise that, just like the fact that there is only one ace of spades in a pack of cards, having to work out how best to use our limited time is part of the game of life. These people are the time doves. The time hawks, on the other hand, are constantly frustrated there isn't enough time. In a desperate attempt to be perfect, they try to do it all, and often end up doing it all badly.
ARE YOU A RUSHAHOLIC?
TO FIND out how much you feel the need for speed, fill in the questionnaire below. State the extent to which you agree with the following: * I underestimate how long it will take me to do something.
* I tell myself to speed up.
* I am known for being busy by friends and family.
* I worry about the next thing I should be doing.
* I often have to go back to get something I have forgotten.
* I eat on the move.
* I fail to notice beauty until someone points it out.
* I get impatient when I watch someone else doing something that I could do faster.
* I try to multitask.
* I tap my fingers/ jiggle my feet.
* I finish sentences for other people.
Score the above as follows: Always 5 Often 4 Sometimes 3 Rarely 2 Never
. If you skimmed each question and answered it almost before you'd finished reading it, add 5 . If you read each question and thought for at least a second before answering, add 3.
. If you read the question slowly and thought about each answer for at least a couple of seconds, add 1.
WHAT THE SCORES SUGGEST...
40-55 Harried and hurried YOU are a rushaholic and, if you scored in the top half of the scale, may be an adrenaline junkie, too. What requests can you say no to? Can you build in some down time between commitments? Sure, being busy is fun, but when you're feeling battered and beaten you may feel it's time to trade in for a calmer karma.
25-39 Pause and pace YOU are susceptible to becoming a rushaholic but the good news is that you aren't one, yet. Don't get caught in the speed trap where you assume that by doing things faster you will automatically get more done. Enjoy the times when you are feeling unhurried and pay attention to the times when you aren't. Make sure that you allow yourself time to reflect.
11-24 What's the rush?
HURRYING is not an issue for you. You may get accused of dawdling every now and then, and others may sometimes consider you slow. However, as long as you are using your more measured pace to think before you act, enjoy the pleasures around you, and give your undivided attention to what you're doing, you're onto a very good thing. There is a difference between not rushing and grinding to a halt. Be careful not to lose impetus altogether.
* DISCOVER hundreds more ways to find time in The Mind Gym: Give Me Time, published by Time Warner and at http://www.themindgym.com/